The obsession of amassing “friends” on Facebook
Facebook stand as viable communities, and are the people on your home page “real friends?” Many of you will answer no. Some expressed feeling leery of all the myriad new drains on time and energy with texting, tweeting, facebooking and so on. They lament the discourtesy of people constantly texting while out to dinner, or using twitter to reply to Facebook to send you an email to ask a simple question. They fear we are losing ourselves. Do you agree or are the social media a great quarry that we do not know how powerful is it?
Yet, this prism has many sides. Plenty out there believe these sites are solid and viable resources for maintaining connections, and the wave of the future. Some people spoke of how they enjoy the broad networks they can manage easily, as well as nostalgic components of finding old friends and delighting in renewed connections.
But are these “new friends” real friends? I mean, sometimes we meet somebody and despite we have not talked so much, we become friends on facebook. So, what is the meaning of friendship?
Let´s have a look at Wikipedia´s definition of friendship
Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other’s company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship
And now, let´s have a look on the definition of “community”
- 1)Group of people sharing a common understanding who reveal themselves by using the same language, manners, tradition and law.
- 2) The condition of having certain attitudes and interests in common.
Well, what I am trying to expalin is that Facebook is a community, and as a community you will recieve, not only your´s friends friendship request, but of people who have certain attitudes and interests in common too.
It is in your hands decide whom do you accept or not. I personally think that Facebook is for really good friends, and there we have Twitter for acquaintances. But do people think in the same way?
The Facebook obsession of amassing ‘friends’ creates the impression that some users are wildly more sociable than others.
But while we may be able to count 5,000 friends on the online social networking site, scientists have shown that humans’ brains are capable of managing a maximum of just 150 friendships.
“You can have 1,500 friends but when you actually look at traffic on sites, you see people maintain the same inner circle of around 150 people that we observe in the real world “
He has also found that women are better at maintaining friendships on Facebook.
“There is a big sex difference though girls are much better at maintaining relationships just by talking to each other. Boys need to do physical stuff together”
So what abaut those who have a lot of friends… Why do they have so much friends? Do they keep in contact with all of them?
I have found famous people, Barack Obama, Belen Esteban, Rod Steward…with more than 1000 friends, but I do not think they are behind that profiles because there are a lot of profiles with their names on Facebook.
- By the way, I have three friends; Marta and Ohiana Elizegui and Amaia Angulo who has Mikel Agirregabiria as a friend. When I saw his picture I knew that he was well-known because I read a lot abaut him (I think he is in Zibereskola and he is a very important person in the department of Education in Bizkaia). I saw that he had more than 1000 friends, and that he was the real Mikel because he publishes interesting things about their job in Konekta 2.0; I think it is a very interesting profile, but I do not agree with him on having his profile open to everybody with any privacy settings customized.
Agirregabiria (4951 friends)
- I also have found Javier Madrazo, a basque politician, who has been the General Coordinator and President of Ezker Batua-Berdeak, and the Minister for Housing and Social Affairs of the Basque Government .Bachelor of Philosophy from the University of Deusto, he also studied three years of engineering. He uses Facebook to spread his ideas.
- There is another Basque with more than 1000 friends, he is Fermin Muguruza who has been defined as “one of the most influential and charismatic Basque in musical scene”. Founder of Kortatu and Negu Gorriak (very known groups in Basque Country), Muguruza has been, politically speaking, a committed men. He also uses Fb to spread his ideas and music letters.
Fermin Muguruza (5001 friends)
- I also have found Julian Iantxi Mitxelena, a tv presenter (“El conquistador del fin del mundo” “Basetxe” “La flecha amarilla”). He grew up in California but when he was 23 years old, he decided to return to his roots, Navarra. He uses Fb to keep in contact with his friends and family of California and to promote his carrer.
- And, after a deep search and thanks to mutual friends, I have found one girl, Luz Martin, a marketing consultant,community Manager and a Turism professional who uses Facebook to promote hershelf.
Luz Martin (4644 friends)
I think that most of their friends are not no friends neither acquaintances, because I became friend with Fermin Muguruza and he did not know whom am I.
I know that they use Facebook for specific porpouses , but I think that it would be a better idea to use Twitter because they only want to be followed.
In the other hand, having so much friends could be problematic…If not ask Mark Zuckerberg!
- Reference (2010, January 24) by Kate Loveys . Retrieved 15:30, December 3rd, 2010 from:http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1245684/5-000-friends-Facebook-Scientists-prove-150-cope-with.html
- Reference (2009, March 29) by Kari Henley. Retrieved 16:00, December 3rd, 2010 from:http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kari-henley/are-facebook-friends-real_b_180204.html